Faux pas and wedding (un)invitations

According to Miss Manners, a wedding is YOUR special event, and the bride and groom only need to invite genuine (work) friends (not everyone at work has to be invited)... but just make sure you let everyone at work know that the wedding is small, so people won't feel snubbed. Thanks Miss Manners! When one is invited by a not so close work colleague are they perhaps relieved when you decline? I am not so sure anymore.


Much has been written and said and debated about the etiquette around wedding invitations.. as well as the issue of tip toeing around whether to invite or not to invite coworkers, or this coworker and not that coworker... when obviously the whole office/workplace can't always be invited. Feelings are bound to be hurt, awkwardness ensues. Productivity declines. Perhaps this is the real reason behind the increase in abuse of sick time by the American worker.


This issue is usually due to the known reality of budget and weddings. Friends and guests can start to look like giant $100 bills (or more) to the bride and groom once they are knee deep in wedding planning.. and let's not even mention the whole +1 issue... for gods sake do you have to bring some random date who we don't even know and you'll probably break  up with anyway and we have to pay $120 and we couldn't even invite great aunt Betty... but considering the Bridget Jones mindset of some singles at weddings, how dare you ask me to come to your special day solo and look ridiculous..digression of course... but when budget is definitely NOT an issue, such as in the case of a famous small surprise wedding the public is hearing about.. then to not be invited.. if you are a loyal coworker of let's say10 years.. and maybe a coworker who you banded together with to revolutionize fair compensation for actors on TV/salary negotiation history...well.. that just kinda hurts...it's definitely the D list as in Dissed. I guess when one says I'll be there for you, you won't necessarily be there for me (too). That is very sad indeed.  Chandler and Joey were not invited! What? Why? This is worse than the Obamas being snubbed by Wils and Kate and not being invited to the royal wedding!


This wedding which was part roast, part surprise party and part exclusive celebrity soiree, was off limits to two cast members who heard about it later. They were put in the same category as Justin Theroux's ex of 13 years who found out about the wedding after the fact! Their responses were pretty decent from what has been written in the press. Meanwhile, what was Christopher McMillan doing? hair styling or full fledged guest? what about Terry Richardson? any great shots he will give away for free? was Coco in the wedding party? The facts are spilling out slowly like syrup from a full glass bottle of Mrs. Butterworth's....