Faux pas and wedding (un)invitations

According to Miss Manners, a wedding is YOUR special event, and the bride and groom only need to invite genuine (work) friends (not everyone at work has to be invited)... but just make sure you let everyone at work know that the wedding is small, so people won't feel snubbed. Thanks Miss Manners! When one is invited by a not so close work colleague are they perhaps relieved when you decline? I am not so sure anymore.


Much has been written and said and debated about the etiquette around wedding invitations.. as well as the issue of tip toeing around whether to invite or not to invite coworkers, or this coworker and not that coworker... when obviously the whole office/workplace can't always be invited. Feelings are bound to be hurt, awkwardness ensues. Productivity declines. Perhaps this is the real reason behind the increase in abuse of sick time by the American worker.


This issue is usually due to the known reality of budget and weddings. Friends and guests can start to look like giant $100 bills (or more) to the bride and groom once they are knee deep in wedding planning.. and let's not even mention the whole +1 issue... for gods sake do you have to bring some random date who we don't even know and you'll probably break  up with anyway and we have to pay $120 and we couldn't even invite great aunt Betty... but considering the Bridget Jones mindset of some singles at weddings, how dare you ask me to come to your special day solo and look ridiculous..digression of course... but when budget is definitely NOT an issue, such as in the case of a famous small surprise wedding the public is hearing about.. then to not be invited.. if you are a loyal coworker of let's say10 years.. and maybe a coworker who you banded together with to revolutionize fair compensation for actors on TV/salary negotiation history...well.. that just kinda hurts...it's definitely the D list as in Dissed. I guess when one says I'll be there for you, you won't necessarily be there for me (too). That is very sad indeed.  Chandler and Joey were not invited! What? Why? This is worse than the Obamas being snubbed by Wils and Kate and not being invited to the royal wedding!


This wedding which was part roast, part surprise party and part exclusive celebrity soiree, was off limits to two cast members who heard about it later. They were put in the same category as Justin Theroux's ex of 13 years who found out about the wedding after the fact! Their responses were pretty decent from what has been written in the press. Meanwhile, what was Christopher McMillan doing? hair styling or full fledged guest? what about Terry Richardson? any great shots he will give away for free? was Coco in the wedding party? The facts are spilling out slowly like syrup from a full glass bottle of Mrs. Butterworth's....

take some advice from Rick and Paulina.. and just sit back and relax...

Hot new couple alert which is causing surprise, shock, and raised eyebrows.... this is concerning sweet romantic bard Ed Shernan and hottie Nicole Scherzinger. Ed hails from the UK and Nicole from the US, and they probably really get along smashingly, going about to pubs and dinner parties and industry gatherings, etc. What's the big deal? Leave them alone! Just because Ed does not fit a certain narrow and limited idea of what is traditionally attractive should not matter one bit.
Besides, we humans are all just bundles of energy, traveling through our universe, connecting with other bundles of energy... and who really cares... I am 100% behind this couple. And if they need guidance, advice, peer counseling.. they can turn to long term lovebirds, Rick Ocasek and Paulina Porzikova.

Remember

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.
Rumi

If you wish to understand the Universe, think of energy, frequency and vibration.
Nikola Tesla

Nanny diaries

Messing around with the nanny...

a tale as old as time itself.

shocking allegations that a certain oscar winning actor is "dating" his nanny are floating around.. I am not talking about Mr. Rochester, I think it is obvious who this is referring to..and seriously folks...this is the same old story we have heard again and again. Take a number! Get in line! We've heard this story before grandma!

It all started back in the 1970's when falling in love with your nanny was endorsed as totally kosher on the 70's TV show Nanny and the Professor:

Then we had "The Nanny" with Fran Drescher, we have Jude Law and his kids' nannny, Ethan Hawke who married his nanny, Robin Williams as well.  maybe Rob Lowe... and Meghan Draper started out as a temp nanny on a trip to California to Don and the kids, sort of predating the above television classic. Let's not get too excited!

getting older

Embracing getting older...we know the cliches...loving the lines on your face, feeling wise and experienced, owning your journey, etc etc etc.
OK we get it. There are some poignant moments in life when one REALLY feels the passing of time. Here is one that stands out:
Vanity Fair comes in the mail with Channing Tatum on the cover. Such excitement, such delight! What do the eyes go to first?

 the article about the queen and her corgis of course!!!(The Queen and her Corgis, a love story)... must... read...that...first.
Yes getting older and proud. Can't wait for my AARP card and Ross discount on Tuesdays for 55 and older.

Take that, Annie Lebowitz!

shocking long term togetherness

Enough of the "shocking" splits such as Miranda and Blake, Jen and Ben, (and now Gavin and Gwen) etc. These splits are hardly shocking. they are expected, anticipated and not surprising. Often the only real element of shock and surprise is "what took so long?". These stories should be replaced immediately with the REAL shocking tales of.. long term togetherness.... such as.. Tom and Rita, Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward, David Bowie and Iman, Kurt and Goldie, Kevin and Kyra.. well the list is rather short... how do they make it work? How do they still like each other so much? they take romantic vacations together? what is the big secret?? that is the BIG surprise and shock!

Brangelina goes to Subway

I can't stop daydreaming about how Brangelina and kids went to Subway recently...such major news and so much analysis... I have so many unanswered questions. Did they have the extra avocado spread for 50 cents? did they toast their sandwiches in the toaster oven, or forgo that option? did anyone have peppers? maybe Pax wanted the flatbread or the twins begged for packaged apples. Is the CEO of Subway celebrating for this unexpected PR? what about the employee who was interviewed about their visit? Was that the person who filled in for the 10th time to the flaky employee who chronically calls in sick when really hung over, and feels like why am I always filling in with no real reward, no real time off for myself... and THEN.. in walks Brangelina and then an interview with US magazine... that is the part of the story that we really need to hear about. what if you were the person who called in sick that day... sort of like a reverse correlation to those who fortfeited their tickets on the Titanic.. so much to ponder.


If I were in line behind them would I be slightly annoyed with all the orders (6 kids) of course not, I would probably faint and have to be revived. I also must wish Knox and Viv and happy 7th birthday too....

lady and the trump

We are seeing a lot of cringeworthy shenanigans of Donald Trump in the so called news lately. One should be doubtful if anyone takes him seriously and that he is none other than a mockery of himself perhaps.. a foil to make democrats look better....
Amazing how in this country a person can work hard, work honestly, and follow a true path without stepping on others....and maybe not gain much material wealth... while capitalism has allowed this guy to be extremely wealthy and worse... to be given an open forum for his misguided opinions.
This is definitely an argument against capitalism!
More outrageous than any recent blunders are
1) his hair
2) this old story from 2012 where he claims to have discovered lady gaga!!
you go Donald!!